Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Lessons Learned from Taylor Swift

If you don't have the pleasure of knowing me in real life, you may be unaware of my everlasting love for Taylor Swift. Seriously, I think it's a spiritual thing at this point. I mean, the girl inspired my tattoo...if that doesn't sum it up for you I don't know what will. But anyway, that's not really the point; today I really wanted to talk about the lesson we can all learn from Taylor Swift, though trust me there are quite a few. Maybe I'll come back to those in later posts.

First of all, let's address the elephant in the room: a lot of people hate Taylor Swift for unjustified reasons. If you ask someone why they feel so strongly opposed to her, their arguments will most likely fall into one of two categories: "She dates so many boys/She's a slut" or "Maybe she should write a song called 'Maybe I'm the Problem!'"** Each claim is more exhausting than the other, and let me tell you why: people just hate her because she's brave enough to stand up for herself and that makes weak people uncomfortable and angry.

Therein lies the lesson we can all learn here: you collect memories, and what you choose to do with them is 100% your call. Taylor Swift has fallen in and out of love, she's been cheated on, she's experienced excessive critique, and she's not afraid to tell you about it. There's something powerful about someone owning their experiences like that, and we should all strive to find that kind of power in ourselves each and every day.

Honestly, as long as you are paying appropriate tribute to what actually happened, you have the right to relay facts and exchanges if you want to. Just like you have the right to bottle it up or vent about it to your best friend, if someone hurt you or you experienced some sort of trauma, you can tell people if you want to. As long as you're being truthful and being candid, who cares what other people think? There's nothing wrong with being an open book if you have a need or desire to do so.

I know it can be hard though. There's always the concern that other people will be angered by your honesty or they'd prefer for you to keep everything inside, but living for the approval of others isn't healthy. And I'd be willing to bet that the nay-sayers are just afraid of your honesty because they regret how they behaved. That's the other part of the puzzle: treat people nicely, because you never know what they'll do with your cruel words otherwise.

So in conclusion, because I don't want my words misconstrued: if you experience something, you now own that experience. Do with it what you please: keep it private, tell a few people, or tell the whole world. Each option is just as valid as the others. Don't be concerned with the opinions of smaller people, because honesty and self-love are more important than their approval anyway. But always make sure you are 100% honest and steer clear of excessive bias, because once you start elaborating on actual events and re-imagining interactions, then you're waist-deep in the murky waters of lying and gossiping. Neither of these are good and both will undoubtedly weigh on your conscience. Oh, and one final note: Taylor Swift is flawless and we should look to her for the answers to all our problems.

I hope you're all having lovely weeks so far and are having a happy "hump day". I'll talk to you guys sooner than you think!


**I'm not really going to go into those arguments because they're exhausting and you won't emerge victorious, so instead just give this a listen and rethink:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C5i4BFx3OMg

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